10 Reasons You’re Dreaming About Your Ex


There are many reasons why you might be dreaming about your ex-partner. Most of the time, these dreams are not pleasant, and they leave us feeling unsettled. They are often ambiguous, but the feelings they elicit make them feel real.

In a study by Sigmund Freud, he concluded that whenever a person dreams, there is an attempt or a successful gratification in her or his subconscious or even in their conscious mind.

So, what does it mean when you are dreaming of your ex?

UNRESOLVED FEELINGS

You are dreaming of your ex because of unresolved feelings, and this makes you feel insecure. Your subconscious mind is trying to tell you something important about yourself or your life. In short: you need closure on the relationship.

Unresolved feelings

FEELING OF LONELINESS

If you’re experiencing feelings of hurt and betrayal because your ex has moved on, maybe it’s time to take a look at why you feel so desperate. In fact, if you keep trying to get back together with people who have already rejected you, or are pushing them away, then your dreams about them will likely continue.

Feeling Lonely

YOU ARE FEELING ANXIOUS

Have you been dreaming of your ex lately? If so, this means that you could be anxious about a new decision. Aside from that, dreams can tell us something else as well. They can be a form of wish fulfillment or coping with difficult emotions and thoughts. You are dreaming of your ex because you are anxious about a specific event in the near future.

Feeling anxious

BREAK-UP TRAUMA

Breaking up with a partner is one of the most difficult things that someone can cope with. Nothing feels more like a nightmare than this emotional transition. And this is how it always felt with him: smooth and warm one moment, then cold and distant the next. So long ago now that you almost forget what a mess of a person he used to make of you until you dream about him again.

MISSING YOUR EX

When you’re in a relationship, the last thing that crosses your mind is that you might one day be apart. In fact, it’s usually not until the relationship has ended that you start to realize just how much you miss your ex. And sometimes, even though your relationship has ended and there’s no way for it to continue, thinking about your ex can feel like a habit.

JEALOUSY

In this case, it’s a statement of fact: your dreams about your ex are caused by jealousy. We can’t help but think about the person we love when he or she is out of reach. Maybe you’re feeling lonely and jealous, or maybe your subconscious mind simply misses the connection to this person.

FIGHTING OVER CUSTODY OF YOUR CHILDREN

You dreamed about your ex because you feel bad for deciding to part ways with them. You still have issues to resolve with them, like joint custody and child support.

TOXIC OR ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP

When you are dreaming of your ex, it is often a signal from your subconscious that you have not fully dealt with the past relationship. If you dream about someone who was abusive to you or acted toxic, this might indicate that you haven’t completely healed from the breakup, and it may also have something to do with unresolved issues within yourself.

HAVING ISSUES WITH YOUR CURRENT PARTNER

This is a sensitive topic. You’ve had a dream about your ex-boyfriend for the first time in over several months after the breakup. This might lead you into existential depression because you may wonder if subconsciously you want to get back together with him or if perhaps your current partner is doing something wrong.

YOU WANT YOUR EX BACK

What do you feel when you miss your ex? You might feel you’re happy or sad. But don’t we usually feel a bit of both at the same time? The key is to find out what it takes to make your ex want to be with you again – and then make it happen!

When you are dreaming of your ex, it does not necessarily mean that there is something going on between you and your ex-partner or boyfriend. According to Lauri Quinn Loewnberg, a famous dream analyst, it might also mean that there is something going on with you. But you must know that there’s nothing to worry about because everything is going to be fine — sooner or later.